"What are your intentions with my daughter?" the big scary dad always asks the shaking teenage boy before prom.
Everyone knows the trope of the overprotective father spouting off a list of "rules" for any chump who tries to date his precious little girl.
Heck, they made an entire TV show off the concept.
One dad posted his particular list of rules for dating his daughters, and it's gaining a lot of attention, but not for the reasons you might expect.
J. Warren Welch is a writer and dad, raising five daughters with his wife, Natasha.
As such, Welch is no stranger to jokes about what he's going to do when his daughters start dating.
The answer is no.
And he's raising his girls to be strong women with convictions of their own.
Sit back, because his list looks nothing like this:
Without further ado, here is J. Warren Welch's list of "Rules for dating my daughters:"
The post instantly went viral.TODAY Parents, he said, "I understand the urge to protect your daughters. I get that. But the kind of posturing by fathers of daughters I was specifically responding to had nothing to do with that 'protective instinct' and everything to do with asserting their dominance over women and reinforcing a belief that women need men to take care of them." Seriously, someone give this man a microphone so he can shout this from the rooftops.
Welch got real about his experience with fatherhood.TODAY Parents.
"Father of the Year" award or not, Welch's message resonated with people everywhere.
via: InstagramFatherhood is a complicated thing to begin with. Throw in centuries of harmful, constantly perpetuated gender norms, and it doesn't get any easier. But luckily, there are fathers like Welch who are willing to make a statement...
And the fact that Welch's post became so popular is a good sign.
via: InstagramHe told TODAY Parents that he hopes the "overwhelmingly positive" response he's gotten indicates "a change in attitudes towards women in our culture." Right there with you, dude.
Welch's advice to other fathers who have daughters?
via: InstagramTo teach their kids that they don't need their father's approval on important decisions they make. "Doing so will only instill in them a belief that they need a man's stamp of approval before they can make a decision," Welch told TODAY Parents.