This Mom Did Something Incredible to Ensure Her Kids Weren’t Excluded From School’s ‘Doughnuts With Dad’ Day

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When her children’s school hosted a “Doughnuts With Dad” event, single mom Michelle Srenco made sure that her children would feel loved and included.

The fact that their dad is not in the picture meant that she needed to get a little creative.

Every mom knows that she needs to wear many hats. Chef, chauffeur, nurse, cheerleader, math expert, dance phenom. The job of motherhood involves being all things to the people who need you.

Without another parent to rely on, single moms handle more than any person ought to be able to. They’re fiercely driven by the need to ensure that their kids don’t miss out on anything because of their circumstances.

Her story was shared on the Love What Matters Facebook page:
My name is Michelle Srenco. I am 36. My kids are Ciarah and Jordan, 7 and 9 years old. I am a domestic violence survivor and I have been a single parent for 4 years. In 2013 I escaped the abuse. When your kids don’t have a dad in their life, you dress up like one.

“I just want parents to know you can be both parents regardless of what gender you are. Your kids don’t care; they just want to feel like everyone else and not feel out of place.”

She explained,
I am also very close to my own dad. He has instilled a lot in me and I have always said he was the best mother I ever had. My dad taught me how to be a man and a woman. I can build and fix just about anything. I am very independent and I try to pass that on to my kids. All of the other dads at the event were very supportive, giving me high fives and pats on the back. After we had donuts, we went to the book fair and I walked them to class and I said in my best dad voice ‘Dad loves you, have a great day!’ I want to encourage other parents to always be there for their child.

But instead Srenco decided to take a humorous approach to a serious situation. Her kids look happy, she looks happy. Clearly, these kids are not suffering from a lack of love and support.

Families come in all sorts of configurations. Some kids have two moms or two dads. Some kids have a parent deployed overseas, or deceased, or indisposed for any number of reasons. Some kids live with aunts, uncles, or grandparents. Some kids are in foster care. It’s probably time to ditch the “Dad” and “Mom” specific events in favor of “special someone” events.

Some argue that making events like father/daughter dances more generic waters them down or makes them less special. This makes no sense. A daughter with an able and willing father still gets to go to the dance with him. But by making it inclusive, a daughter whose father is not able, willing, available, or alive can also go to the special dance. How could that possibly be a bad thing?

It’s great that there are moms out there willing to don a faux goatee for their kids. But there are certainly many more who would find it terrifying or humiliating. (And probably a lot of kids who would find it embarrassing too!) We all know that the school’s intention is to include everyone, and that of course a different parent or caregiver is welcome, but many people don’t feel comfortable standing out, so the kids miss out. If the events were more generically inclusive, then all the kids could participate regardless of who their caregivers are!

A mom’s love is not to be trifled with. Way to go, Michelle Srenco, and all single parents out there fighting the good fight every day! Have you hugged a mom today?