'Throuple' Say People Are Jealous of Their Relationship | 22 Words

Polyamorous relationships have become more and more popular over the years, with many feeling much more comfortable having a relationship with more than one person.

But a lot of people find the idea of a polyamorous relationship problematic, and ultimately, unfaithful.

A "throuple" from Florida have spoken out about their unusual relationship. Keep scrolling to find out what they have to say...

People express love in different ways...

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And for many, expressing their love isn't always exclusive to just one person.

Many people consider themselves to be polyamorous...

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Polyamory is defined as loving more than one person, and it is often mistaken for an "open relationship."

A lot of people feel unfulfilled in a single relationship...

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In reality, polyamorous relationships are unique in that they are comprised of multiple, loving partnerships.

Many struggle to characterize a polyamorous relationship, however...

According to New York City relationship expert and author Susan Winter, a polyamorous relationship is often “characterized by a primary couple that openly (and with mutual consent) engage with other romantic partners. These sexual liaisons may be enacted as a couple, or independently."

These types of relationships differ depending on the person...

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For some people, a polyamorous relationship involves being in a relationship with multiple people but having one main partner. For others, polyamory is the possibility of being in 2 completely separate relationships.

Polyamory works well for a lot of couples.

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But it certainly isn't the most popular relationship type.

A lot of people who tried polyamory found it extremely difficult.

Writing for the Bolde blog, a woman wrote of the negative aspects of her polyamorous relationship. "Just about every poly relationship that I’ve ever had included jealousy issues," she wrote. "When you’re in love with someone, you usually will want them all to yourself, and even if you aren’t the jealous type, it’s often emotionally hard to know that you aren’t the only one they care about."

Not everyone in the polyamorous relationship will get the same experience as the others...

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"Even when poly relationships don’t involve ranks by name, there’s still going to be a tendency for one partner to get more out of the relationship than the others," she also wrote.

So the thought of being involved in a polyamorous relationship is ghastly for the majority...

But 3 people from Florida who describe themselves as a "throuple" beg to differ.

The relationship began as monogamous...

Michael Taylor, who works as a civil engineer, and his yoga instructor wife, Lauren, first met at college back in 2011 and they married in 2016.

But they decided that just the 2 of them was not enough...

The couple, who are both thirty, now share their married life with their shared girlfriend, Jess, who is also thirty.

Michael and Lauren were exclusively together for 7 years when they met Jess...

Jessica, who has been polyamorous for some time, approached the couple at a gig and they got talking - and the 3 have been together ever since.

They share their relationship via their shared Instagram account...

The trio views their relationship as 3 people in love equally, who also each have individual relationships as couples.

Many are confused as to how the married couple could suddenly just become polyamorous...

Michael explained in an interview, "Jess has been polyamorous most of her adult life. Lauren and I were monogamous for seven years but were in search for an enhancement to the relationship. We each had more love to give than just to each other."

Michael insists that Jess' addition has made the whole relationship stronger.

"There are several points in the relationship that led to 'falling in love'. You experience all the amazing things with each other, and then one day it just hits you. It's not so much the events, as it is the consistency and intensity."

Being polyamorous requires a lot of hard work.

"Our delta is a 33 percent shared love between the 3 of us. We all have equal responsibilities to care for ourselves and each other. Although our triad is predominantly the three of us, there are three additional relationships that need recognition: Michael and Lauren, Michael and Jess, Lauren and Jess," Michael said about the sharing of the relationship.

Jess now lives with Lauren and Michael...

And Michael spoke of the difficulties that came with announcing the relationship to their families, of whom eventually took the news very well. "We were extremely careful and patient in explaining it to Lauren's family because of the adversity - coming out as bisexual and welcoming another woman into the marriage."

Michael, Lauren, and Jessica plan to get married as a throuple one day...

But this would have to be done in Thailand or Indonesia as it is isn't legal for 3 people to get married in the U.S.

Jess spoke out about the public reaction to her shared relationship...

"We usually have to repeat ourselves a few times to 'spell it out' for them, if you will," she explained.
"People are generally confused but intrigued to know more about the relationship. Most reactions are quite comical, and the questions start to pour in. Men, especially, are excited and envious."

Jess strongly believes that a triad is a "delicate balance"...

"The key to this [relationship] is to always be yourself, don't hold back your wants and needs, and prevent resentment. It's also important to create foundational relationships like the three separate ones we share," she went on to say.
For fifteen weird and wonderful facts about polygamy, keep reading...