One TikToker has come under fire for celebrating her decision to never become a parent…
She was voluntarily sterilized and had a photoshoot to celebrate.
And people are really torn about the choice…
Now, to many, there’s nothing quite as rewarding as parenthood.
The love between you and your child is something unlike any other feeling on earth… It’s a pretty magical thing.
Although you try and do the best for your child…
Everyone has an opinion on what you’re doing wrong.
There are many things that make parenthood irritating…
But there’s one thing pretty much every parent out there can relate to, which is feeling like you’re not giving your kids the best.
And there are a whole host of controversial decisions to be made around parenting.
It’s safe to say, people have some pretty strong opinions…
Like, for example, how to split duties between parents…
With single parenting being even tougher!
And modern parents have even more stresses to go through.
Technology has made the already hard job of parenting even trickier — especially as kids grow older.
There’s another big issue for parents, these days.
The highly topical issue of helicopter parenting.
It can be tricky to toe the line between responsible and overprotective.
But it’s important to foster independence and trust in your kids, to risk a serious rebellion down the line.
It often all comes down to communication.
And making sure your kids feel they can come to you with their problems will always make things easier.
Respect is another pertinent issue when it comes to parenting.
As a lack of respect is really what most fights between parents and kids come down to.
Patience is also key.
As any parent will tell you, you need the patience of a saint on some days.
The feeling of inadequacy can also bring parents down.
But if you’re trying your best, rest assured — you’re being a top-level parent!
Trying to instill discipline is key.
But, let’s be honest — it’s not always possible! Sometimes kids just aren’t in the mood to be obedient.
There’s something else that can make parenting seem scary.
That feeling that there just isn’t enough time!
Not only do days rush past when you’re super busy taking care of a little one…
But you want to treasure the precious, fleeting moments of your child’s early days (and years).
Dealing with fear is another big issue of parenting.
With a world out there that feels vast and frightening, it can be tempting to wrap you child up in cotton wool.
But you need to allow your child to experience life for themselves!
So long as they always know they can rely on you to help them out in times of need!
A lot of good parenting actually relies on relinquishing of control.
Which is, as any parent knows, easier said than done.
But for some people, parenthood just isn’t a preference.
And one TikToker has sparked a debate for this very reason…
TikToker Abby Ramsay – who goes by the handle @abbysworldsastage – shared a celebratory photoshoot after being voluntarily sterilized.
She wrote in her overlay text: “After about 6 years of trying, I finally found a doctor who listened. This goes out to all the ones who didn’t.”
“I’m excited to take control of my own body. I’m not a baby maker.”
However, some people are not happy with her choice to celebrate childlessness.
One wrote: “What trauma did you experience that led to this?”
Another added: “It’s literally our job to reproduce. It’s God’s plan for us. Those who can I must add. Call me a Karen but that’s how it’s supposed to be .”
However, others were on Abby’s side.
One wrote: “I’m a mom & I wanna say congratulations! Same way I was able to choose to have children you should be able to choose & be respected not to.”
Another commented: “The fact that a woman has to fight for her own right to not to have children, is ridiculous. Not everyone wants kids and that’s OKAY.”
A third added: “I’d prefer people who don’t want children to not have them. Happy for you. Enjoy your life how you want to.”
