A transgender man who has given birth to 2 children has opened up about the “trauma” of his pregnancies…
He shared his experience with being pregnant…
While stressing the need for better education on trans pregnancy.
But first, what exactly is “gender dysphoria?”
Gender dysphoria involves a conflict between a person’s sex and the gender with which he or she identifies with.
People with gender dysphoria experience high levels of discomfort with their own bodies, and they often report feeling as if it isn’t their own.
People who are transgender more than often realize that they are from a very young age – children are able to experience gender dysphoria and this is when the majority of trans people realize this conflict.
According to the Human Rights Campaign, studies have shown that familial rejection can lead to the LGBTQ+ youth engaging in behaviors and activities that endanger their health, trigger depression, and other mental health issues, and, in some extreme cases, can lead to homelessness and suicide.
Child welfare expert, Caitlin Ryan, states that “family acceptance predicts greater self-esteem, social support, and general health status,” for LGBTQ+ youth.
“It also protects against depression, substance abuse, and suicidal ideation and behaviors – issues for which transgender youth are at disproportionate risk.”
Coming out as transgender and beginning the transition is never easy…
Despite this being what a person desires, the first few steps into transition are never easy, especially for a child.
Enduring taunting in the school corridors from their peers who are too naive to understand the situation is a sad reality for many trans children.
Thankfully, the LGBTQ+ community is bigger than ever today.
There are countless organizations around the world that work hard together purely to support people, especially children, of the transgender community.
However, despite the countless organizations that offer support…
There’s still a long way to go… Particularly when it comes to education.
Kayden Coleman, a dad of 2, has recently stressed the need for better education on trans pregnancy.
After he spoke out about the “trauma” of his pregnancies…
Kayden Coleman is the proud father of 7-year-old, Azaelia and 10-month old, Jurnee who he has with his partner.
Kayden, who began transitioning back in 2009, first fell pregnant in 2013 after he had to temporarily stop taking testosterone to have a mastectomy to remove his breasts.
Kayden has not had genital construction surgery, keeping his female reproductive organs.
At the time he was shocked to discover he was 5 months pregnant with his first child, Azaelia.
Then last year, Kayden found out he was pregnant again…
This time expecting a child with his boyfriend, Dominique.
Kayden is now a proud dad of two, but it hasn’t been easy…
Speaking of his pregnancy experiences with Today, Kayden described it as “very tumultuous.”
“There was a lot of trauma,” he said.
“Most of that came from inside the birthing world, with medical professionals. There was a lot of questioning about my identity, a lot of misgendering. Being told I shouldn’t be in spaces I was seeking care from because they were considered women’s spaces. I was offered an abortion a ridiculous amount of times.”
While pregnant, Kayden found that no one held the door for him or fussed over his growing belly as some pregnant people experience.
And for Kayden he feels as though he missed out on “the perks” of pregnancy.
However, despite feeling that he missed out, Kayden admits that he’s relieved no one knew the truth.
“I didn’t have to walk around in fear, worrying that people wanted to inflict violence on me. They thought I had a beer belly,” he said.
Having suffered trauma in his own experience of pregnancy, Kayden is now working to educate others about being transgender and pregnant.
“Being trans inclusive involves more than simply knowing the terminology. It’s more than having a few trans friends. And it is certainly more than having the mere desire to be an ally,” he wrote on Instagram.
“It is work. Constant education. Understanding your privilege.”
“It’s not about whether or not you quote-unquote agree with us. We don’t care about your acceptance or agreement. We just want equity and safe, inclusive care.”
Kayden recently held a virtual workshop to help educate people.
Posting about it on Instagram, he wrote: “I’ve decided to make (10) tickets for my virtual Transmasculine Birth webinar/workshop PAY WHAT YOU CAN! I understand that we are still in a pandemic. I understand that we don’t all have access to funds to put where we want, much less where we need. So – the first (10) folks to DM me, can pay whatever they want for a ticket to the workshop!”
“This workshop is for all birthworkers, allies, folks in the medical field, etc. Feel free to share with anyone you think would benefit from attending.”
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