One of the things most women learn as they grow up is how to gently rebuff the unwanted advances of a man. You have to be firm, but not aggressive; polite, but not cowed. It's a delicate balance. And all too often, some men choose not to take no for an answer and continue to insist you let them buy you a drink.
A writer named Amna Saleem recently found herself in this particularly difficult situation. It was at that moment that another woman stepped in and saved the day.
Saleem was at the bar when a guy approached her and offered to give her a drink.
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Ahhh, it's a tale as old as time. Girl goes to bar. Boy sees girl. Boy decides to hit on girl... then refuses to take no for an answer.Luckily, another woman saw Saleem's struggle and swiftly stepped in:
guy: ...just one drink me: no thank you guy: come on it's just a drink me: look, i'm sorry I just want to read my b… https://t.co/adwyvCRkYI— Amna (@Amna)1516478314.0
Women immediately started chiming in with their own encounters with thirsty men at the bar (and I don't mean thirst for drinks):
Like this woman, who tried to help her friend out and ended up being the new target. Seriously?! How did that guy think this was a good option?This woman has another great idea for women trying to help other women:
@AGlasgowGirl I want to start a movement called, "How's Mary?" because everyone knows a Mary. Stumbling home after… https://t.co/8eS81tBxls— Dr. Omega 🦞 (@Dr. Omega 🦞)1516485670.0
At one point, a man spoke up on Saleem's viral Twitter thread to ask for advice on what men can do in similar situations.
@AGlasgowGirl Any advice on how men can do similar without also coming across as creepy/invasive? My go to is a 'du… https://t.co/hScwjtGXKu— Sleepypirate ⬡ (IRE 🇮🇪) (@Sleepypirate ⬡ (IRE 🇮🇪))1516535143.0
Saleem herself said that a stranger once intervened in a similar situation by telling her that her friend was waiting for her.
@BunkoPirate waaaay back I had a guy intervene by saying "hey, gf is looking for u, she wants to know if ur good to… https://t.co/FqSGLkutGX— Amna (@Amna)1516535933.0
This woman shared her story of a heroic bus driver:
@AGlasgowGirl He never spoke to me except to tell me that was exactly what he was doing. "Its late and I don't wan… https://t.co/HWQs9MmtR6— TokuSwag the Smaphowolf (@TokuSwag the Smaphowolf)1516580476.0
This woman shared a story of a rescue truck driver bringing his girlfriend along to pick her up:
@tokuswag @AGlasgowGirl I was once rescued by my rescue service when my car broke down on the A3. The driver got ou… https://t.co/tXMRnmXI61— legionseagle (@legionseagle)1516630843.0