Married Couple Has Second Wedding After Husband With Alzheimer’s Proposes to Wife Again

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When someone gets married, most people hope it’ll only happen once! However, Peter and Lisa Marshall from Connecticut got to relive the magic of their wedding day again recently for the most tragic of reasons.

Peter, fifty-six, was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s 3 years ago. However, he recently asked his wife to marry him again in December, after forgetting they had wed twelve years prior. Lisa told NBC New York that they were watching an episode of New Girl which featured a wedding scene when Peter pointed to the screen and said “Let’s do it.”

“And I said, ‘Do what?'” she recalled, “And he pointed to the TV, to the scene of this wedding, and I said, ‘You want to get married?’ And he said ‘yes’ and had this huge grin on his face. He doesn’t know that I’m his wife, I’m just his favorite person.”

“It’s been devastating, but I’ve done my best to stay positive and focus on one day at a time,” Lisa Marshall told the Washington Post, “My mantra has always been to have no regrets.”

“It’s heartbreaking,” Lisa later told CNN, “We’ve made new memories, but it hurts because I always want to say ‘Remember that one time?’ I want to reminisce with him, but Peter can’t remember anything now, much less what happened twenty years ago.”

The couple met when they were neighbors in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania. Their children encouraged the couple to renew their wedding vows, while Lisa’s daughter, Sarah, an event planner, helped set the whole thing up.

“I knew that my stepdad, who I am very close with, was there through some of the toughest times of my life,” Sarah told the Post, “He means so much to me, and my mom is my best friend, so I was proud to be able to take on such an important role.”

“I went into it with no expectations, the disease is so unpredictable. I still got butterflies getting my make-up done and putting my dress on. Every moment was more magical than the next,” Lisa explained.

On April 26th, the couple renewed their vows in front of family and close friends. The wedding was officiated by dementia specialist Adrianna DeVivo, a licensed wedding officiant who had helped Lisa create a care plan for her husband.

Lisa and Peter first married on August 13th, 2009, during a beach ceremony in Turks and Caicos. After living across the street from one another, their friendship blossomed into a romantic relationship after both had been divorced. But in 2017, Peter began having difficulties with memory, forgetting words, and becoming increasingly forgetful. A year later, when Lisa took Peter to a neurologist for an answer, the diagnosis for early-onset Alzheimers was confirmed. By January 2019, Peter had to quit his job and Lisa had become his full-time caregiver by 2020.

“Before his diagnosis, I always thought that Alzheimer’s was an old person’s disease,” said Lisa, “Now I know better.”

Lisa told CNN that she was aware her husband could forget who she was during the ceremony, but she doesn’t “need a label, like a wife, or nicknames he used to call me.”

“Our hearts are connected in a way that all I need is for him to feel safe, and he does,” she said. “And he loves me, and I love him, so that’s all that matters.”

She added, tearfully: “[At the wedding], he leaned in and he whispered in my ear, ‘Thank you for staying.'”

We hope Lisa and Peter are able to make the most of their time left togtehrr and cherish their special memories.