We’ve all seen a couple who look a lot alike and wondered why it was happening. Well, science has an answer, but it still doesn’t take away from how weird it is. People can’t seem to get over how much this one couple look alike and it’s making them feel so uncomfortable…
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It’s just science.
Maybe you’re into beards, or brunettes, or tattoos? Different strokes for different folks, you know? And remember, everyone is attractive to someone, even those of us who are not Jason Momoa.
Attraction is this complex mix of feelings that gives us this general, good feeling. I tend to feel it when I get chills down my spine — that lets me know I’m either into someone or I have just encountered a ghost.
But attraction doesn’t have a clear line between cause and effect, so it can be a tricky one to pin down.
You know who I’m talking about — those couples consisting of two people with the same hair color, the same shape of nose, and the same body type…
You can’t help but make assumptions about these kinds of couples. Are they narcissists? Couldn’t they just afford a mirror? It’s weird.
And here we come to the actual disconcerting part of these types of couples — it feels like they’re intermingling their families. Ew.
Of course, we know these couples aren’t actually related. That would be insane. But still, ew.
One study from 1987 suggested that couples start to look more alike over time, because they’ve lived together, and shared experiences.
… the environmental factors that influence your face will also influence your partner’s face. These couples have shared smiles and frowns, carried the same burdens. That leads them to develop the same wrinkles, the same hunches, the same grimaces.
But what about the people who actively pursue partners who look like themselves?
There are a lot of reasons people date those who look like them, and none of them are quite what you think.
In a story from Time, Justin Lehmiller of the Kinsey Institute is looking into the phenomenon. “These traits might come to be seen as comforting,” he said to Time. “They’re familiar to you.”
No matter how self-deprecating you might be around your friends, or how able you are to talk yourself into hating your appearance, we all have a framework for what looks good, and that framework mostly comes from looking at ourselves.
Lehmiller also said, “people naturally gravitate toward people who are familiar, even though the whole process is likely subconscious.” So when you’re sitting in that weird stew that is attraction, you’re not thinking, “I am familiar with this nose shape and am therefore into this person.” You’re just intuitively going “okay they’re cute.”
Until someone else mentioned it to the woman, and now she can’t unsee it.
A friend told Amy that her boyfriend Benjamin Radcliffe looked like her long lost twin and of course, then hundreds of comments from strangers agreed on the Facebook post.
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“Are we related?” She asked them, and thankfully, her parents denied the claims and told her that it was just an uncanny resemblance.
The two have only been dating for a few months and even after the comments from people, she’s admitted that it’s weird but it’s not “put her off [him].”
“Since my friend pointed out that we look the same, I haven’t been able to ‘unsee’ our facial similarities. It’s crazy that he looks more like me than my younger brother, Jack. Yeah, he definitely looks more like me than my brother, Jack, and my two older sisters, Ellie and Chloe.”
“Benjamin said he thinks we look alike too and finds it all very bizarre, especially as we hadn’t noticed before. Benjamin is only a few inches taller than me too so I can imagine that when we are out and about together once lockdown is over that we might start getting a few comments about being siblings.”
She also mentioned that she’ll just dye her hair to try and avoid the problem. I hear rose-gold hair is totally in right now, so that might be the option.
Can you see it?
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