A woman has asked the internet if she’s the a*****e for laughing at her husband for wanting to cancel their prenup.
A thirty-six-year-old woman has taken to Reddit to share a post on r/AITA explaining that “Before [she] got married [her husband] had me sign a prenup stating that our financials would always be separate.”
She shared that “the reason for this was because he was making pretty good money and I was in graduate school so my financial situation was pretty bad but I signed nonetheless.”
But after 6 years, and a few changes to their financial situation, he was earning far less than her. “I’ve been out of school for about 4 years and I make more than 3 times as much as he does. (I never asked how much he makes and he’s never asked me either).”
She continued: “Anyway, 2 weeks ago I told him that I was thinking about buying a new car as one I had, was really old since I had had it since my undergraduate days.”
After treating herself to an Audi, and showing her husband, he “asked me what my monthly payments were as the Audi was pretty new… At this point, I told him that I had made the purchase in cash and that I had no monthly payments.”
This is when things got particularly heated…
“He was taken back and asked with what money and I answered that I made more than enough money to be able to afford it. He didn’t talk after that and I thought that was that… However after a few hours, he came back to me and told me that he thinks we should void the prenup…”
“This is where I might be the asshole, I laughed in his face and asked him why I would agree to that and his answer was that we’re married and should share our financials.
“So I told him that we’ve been married for 6 years and yet we’ve never shared financials and I was fine with what we were doing, and his sudden change of heart was very suspicious. He called me a bunch of names and stormed out and didn’t come home and I guess he told his family about our fight and they called to berate me and say how he supported me while I was in school (he didn’t) and now am wondering if I was the a*****e??”
As you can guess, almost all comments from other Reddit users were in support of the woman, with one writing: “Yeah, this. My wife and I have always been open about our earnings because it’s part of household finances. He can’t demand separate finances and suddenly demand they be combined when he realizes she has more.”
While another said: “NTA. Not gonna lie, you two don’t sound like partners. You sound like you’re against each other in life. Take this change of heart as the red flag that it is and consider how you want to proceed.”
A third commented: “I agree, like if one was to become disabled would they financially abuse the other? It is more like a business relationship, not a romantic one. OP is NTA though her husband seems self-serving.”
What do you think?