A woman, who was previously disowned by her parents, has reached out online asking if she was wrong to refuse to help them.
A Redditor, who goes by the username u/Born-Problem-8280, has asked other users if she was in the wrong for not helping her parents, who are going through bankruptcy.
Taking to the Subreddit, she asked: “AITA for refusing to help my parents even if they end up homeless with serious medical conditions?” Adding that helping them get out of their financial situation “would make a really big change for them but I won’t even miss [the money] that bad.”
She began her story by stating that her parents are strictly religious, and have always tried to push their beliefs onto her. “It was a fight to be able to go to a normal college and not a Christian one with weird rules. When I did that they said they will not be paying for my schooling until I ‘come back to the right path,'” she wrote.
She explained that “after struggling for a couple of months a friend told me that the strip club she was working at was hiring. I have been dancing my whole life and have a good figure so I was hired pretty fast.”
It was through stripping that she made a considerable amount of money, so much so, that she’s totally financially free at the edge of twenty-eight. “A few months in I dropped out of college because I was making serious money,” allegedly up to $11k a week! “When my parents found out they disowned me.”
She continued: “Fast forward 9 years, I own my house outright, a Tesla, don’t have debt, I also own an apartment building that I rent (stripping has a short lifespan) and investments.”
And now, her parents want her help, despite refusing to be there for her in her time of need. “Apparently my father lost his business during COVID, my mom has always been a SHM, they declared bankruptcy and are really struggling (they live in an old camper). Also apparently my mom is diabetic now and my dad has always had heart problems. They wanted my help,” she said.
She concluded her post: “I said no, I don’t have parents anymore. And furthermore, according to their religion and church, my money was earned while sinning so to use it is to damn your soul to hell and I really didn’t want that for them. My mom started crying and my dad said that they didn’t know where they went wrong with me.
“But now a couple of weeks later I am starting to feel like I was an AH to them. Because a month’s income from stripping would make a really big change for them but I won’t even miss it that bad.
“So AITA?”
Other Reddit users were quick to jump to her defense, with many backing her decision to refuse to help them. One Redditor wrote: “You don’t owe your parents anything, but you owe yourself a clean conscience. If you’re going to second guess yourself – and it sounds as though you are – just write the check and move on. You can then go ahead and forget about them again.”
Another echoed the previous commenter, adding: “If it were me, I would help them if they would openly admit that they were the unreasonable ones, and also admit in their circles that they are lucky to have a quite successful daughter who before the age of 30 is able to financially support them. If they won’t do that, then this just absolutely confirms that they truly don’t care about you, and only want your money.”
What do you think?