For women, going to a bar is never easy. There are many hurdles to jump over, be it to do with outfits, footwear, or generally having to avoid creepy men.
Before we go any further, it’s important to point out that it’s not all men – though there is a responsibility for every man to make women feel safe.
Recently, a woman named Trinity Allie went viral after a bartender helped her and a friend out of a sticky situation with a man who was acting “creepy” towards them.
The bartender, identified as Max Gutierrez, handed Trinity a fake receipt which actually turned out to be a note telling her to give him a sign if she needed help.
The note read, “If this guy is bothering you, put your ponytail on your other shoulder and I will have him removed.
“He’s giving ME the creeps.”
Naturally, the tweet went viral gaining hundreds of thousands of likes and retweets, all from people praising the barman’s actions.
Since going viral the pair have reunited, much to the delight of people on the internet who immediately took a liking to the hero in a Hawaiian shirt.
“Reunited w/ the legend himself #maxthebartender back @ the scene of the crime,” Trinity posted, along with a photo of the two sharing an embrace.
“So good to see you!” Max said as he met her.
Speaking to WFLA Max very humbly said, “I see all the ‘hero bartender’ [messages] – I’m not a hero. I was just doing my job.”
Trinity clearly sees the situation differently and is still ever grateful to him for stepping in.
“No bartender has ever stepped in for me and that’s why I thought it was so great and everyone should hear about it,” she told the outlet.
“Everyone is like, we need more bartenders like this. You never know what could have happened… Say he didn’t step in and this guy followed me and my friend out when we left.”
Following Max’s heroic efforts to ensure the two customers felt safe, many people have called for there to be compulsory training for bar staff to do the same.
Stephen Schrutt, the owner of the bar where Max works, also lauded his member of staff with praise.
“This is what it’s about — you’re not just selling food and drinks, you’re making sure people are safe. Take a page out of Max’s book.”
The fact of the matter is that until more men begin to behave as Max did, women will continue to fear men. You may see people on the internet sharing things such as “ugh, men” or “all men are trash”, which will leave some men thinking “well it’s not all men, I’m not like that.” If that’s the case, do your bit to stop other men from acting like trash.
Not only could you help end that perception, but you could help make women feel more comfortable in all walks of life!