Consent is an important thing and is something that people use every day in their day-to-day lives. Consent is needed for things such as medical procedures, field trips at school, and even when it comes to relationships.
Consent to physical and intimate activities is super important in a relationship, and the majority of couples abide by gaining consent first before making any moves.
But when it comes to a family member giving you a harmless kiss on the cheek, should consent be needed for that? Keep scrolling to get involved in the debate...
Consent is a pretty big deal...No means no. Simple as that. Consent is what allows healthy relationships to blossom, and without it only causes a toxic and harmful environment.
Even the little things count...Such as leaning in for that special first kiss? You must make sure that the consent is there in order for you to follow through with this treasurable moment.
But what about when it comes to family?When visiting the grandparents, it's always natural to receive a kiss on the cheek as a sign of affection and love - it's what the majority of families do, right?
A recent debate is arguing otherwise...British morning show This Morning of ITV hosts a wide range of guests to discuss numerous different topics, and one certain topic certainly began a worldwide debate this week.
Hosts Eamonn and Ruth Holmes puzzled over the debate of whether or not grandparents should get consent to kiss their grandchildren...
via: YoutubeThe debate was spurred along by parenting expert Jane Evans, who as a mom herself, believes that consent should be taught from a very young age and this includes getting kissed by grandparents and other family members.
She believes that adults should seek permission before kissing a child.
via: YoutubeBusinesswoman and mom Rebecca Jane was also on the show to debate against Jane as she strongly disagrees with the concept of seeking permission to kiss members of your own family.
An issue of child safety?
via: YoutubeAustralia is rolling out the method in schools when it comes to consent, and Jane believes that children should decide themselves what they want. She said: "It's very simplistic... we allow children to decide who can or can't touch their body, when, how, what, where... it's just to keep them safe."
Jane doesn't see the issue behind asking children permission before giving them a hug or a kiss.After being questioned further about what exactly it is that family members must do in terms of seeking permission, Jane went on to say: "they have to ask permission [from family members], it sounds big and clunky but it should just be a part of daily life."
A lesson of respect?
via: YoutubeJane also argued that asking children permission to approach them in an intimate manner will teach them respect. She said: "We're going to raise children who feel safe in their own bodies, who respect their own bodies but equally as importantly, they respect other peoples' bodies - this is a major crisis we have... it's not just about grandparents it's about everyone, parents, uncles, aunties [etc]."
But Rebecca shot back at Jane's opinion...
via: YoutubeShe almost laughed and simply said, "Nonsense. Pure and simple," in response to Jane's views after she stated, "I would never launch into a hug [with a child]."
Rebecca holds the complete opposite opinion.She argued her side of the debate, saying: "If we start having these boundaries with children and saying 'no, stop my grandmother from giving me a kiss, you've got to ask me for it', where do we draw the line? We're going to breed cold and emotionless children and it's going to affect their futures."
When Jane mentioned that parents should even ask permission to hug their own child, the debate became even more divided.
via: YoutubeHost, Ruth Holmes then jumped into the debate, asking: "are we going to get to a stage where parents are going to have to ask permission, say 'can I change your nappy now' or 'can I put your pants on now?'" in which Jane immediately replied with "yes", claiming that most parents already do this.
"Basic body safety education" or being too overprotective?
via: YoutubeJane insists that the practice of obtaining a child's permission before they are touched is "basic body safety permission", but many agree that her methods and opinions are simply overprotective and smothering.
Many have branded the debate as "pathetic"...
this conversation on @thismorning is ridiculous! Why should grandparents have to ask their grandchildren for a kiss… https://t.co/d41zyHvvzf— Stacey Louise MUA (@Stacey Louise MUA)1564569982.0
There are many more pressing issues in the world than whether a grandparent can hug their grandchild...
@thismorning Can’t help but laugh at this ridiculous woman when she described children having to kiss and hug their… https://t.co/Pu0owu2DKP— John Wells (@John Wells)1564566396.0
Many believe that we should cherish the time we have with our grandparents.Rather than worrying over getting consent to let your grandma or grandad hug you, people should be embracing the time they have left with their grandparents - as many people sadly don't have much time to be with them.
The topic of child abuse was brought up in the debate...
This is a ridiculous topic. Of course children should kiss their grandparents without asking consent. Unconditiona… https://t.co/QC9oSqyaAB— Fi ☃️❄☃️ (@Fi ☃️❄☃️)1564566099.0
Previously, experts have said that parents should ask their babies permission to change diapers.Sexuality Educator and author Deanne Carson appeared on ABC News to speak about her work, claiming that by asking babies and toddlers permission to change their diapers, their communication habits will improve in later life.
The baby doesn't have to reply to this request, apparently...
via: YoutubeBecause duh... a baby can't yet talk? Deanne claimed it was more about fostering a lifestyle where a child's opinion and answers to questions such as these matter in a home and are always taken into consideration.