A mom has begged women to stop making excuses for their lazy husbands and to hold them accountable instead. Seems like something we can all do, right?
The mom took to Facebook to write a post sharing her despair about husbands not lifting their weight which has since been reposted by many.
Cate Nelson is one of those who reshared the post about lazy husbands as the perspective well and truly resonated with her.
She even added to the post, explaining that her "life got infinitely easier when I left my ex," as the "biggest secret about single parenting" is that it is "less stressful than trying to fill in for a lazy partner."
In the original post, the woman explained that on every page she follows, she sees "the same thing: mothers talking about how exhausted they are, how hurt they are by the imbalance of work in their heterosexual relationships."
"The problems are all some variation of 'I just gave birth/am up half the night breastfeeding.' 'Why do I have to also make dinner and clean while my spouse watches TV?'" the post read.
"The advice is always the same: Be gentle with yourself. You can't do it all. Parenthood is hard. Blah blah blah."
Although the advice often given is good, the woman that adds that she has some better advice for women in the position and that is "divorce his ass."
"This cultural norm where a man buys his free time with his partner's labor, suffering, and sometimes with the literal destruction of her body is misogyny on steroids. Men are not innately incompetent or lazy or incapable of doing their fair share," she writes in the post.
"Tell that jackass to get off the golf course, get his ass home, get up in the middle of the night with the baby, and start earning the right to stay married. And remind him that not all men are this way and that a dude who doesn't do his fair share is not exactly a prize. He is replaceable."
The woman went on to question why "lazy men" think "you should have to work 168 hours a week while they work forty."
She then explained that her husband pulls his weight and helps out while "litigating police and prison death cases and dealing with the unending horror of our current legal system." So, as far as she is concerned, "your Johnny Do Nothing husband can manage to get up with the damn baby and stop blaming your postpartum depression on your woman hormones."
"If he gets free time and you don't, if he gets to sleep and you don't, if you have to do the grunt work and he doesn't, guess what. It's not an accident. He knows exactly what he is doing. Division of labor imbalances in marriage is a form of spousal abuse," she writes.
"Stop making excuses for sh***y men."